आप
ने
ऐसा
बहुत
लोगों
को
कहते
हुए
सुना
हो
गा,
कि
“हमने
तो
सब
कुछ
किया।
इतना
पैसा
लगाया।
फर
भी
नही
चली।” How do I say that this is the whole problem
why it did not work. Not saying that आपका पैसा किसी काम का नही है। but yes it need not necessarily be as useful, as you think it
is here in marriage.
Parents today are saving money for two big
events in their life. This is at least what I have noticed and you would see
how futile their effort is in doing so. First is marriage. Yes you all knew
about this one. Some of you might even have started saving themselves according
to kind of celebration you would want on that one big day. Which is cool by
every means. As it is being planned by you much before time from your own
salary. It is amusing that how every next relative including your parents would
constantly say that getting married might improve your life, bring you good
luck and would make you a better person, being specific a better man. As it is
said mostly for men. It’s funny that how by saying this they probably mean that
the only good that is to happen in one's life is through this other person who
they will marry. It might also be said that those who are right now the part of
his life are the reason he is spoiled, is not a good person and these same
people are probably the bad luck. Funny... right? That how they are making a
case against their own selves.
“Hahaha
धीरे
धीरे
सब
सीख
जाये
गा।”
“तुम्हे कुछ आता क्यों नही है, कुछ सीखा नही।”
I don't need to tell which of the above
sentence is for whom. It is like a job for which you bribe to get it. And then
work, without even getting paid. But the good news ladies, you get the title -
of being a wife of xzy. In simple language, it is not the job we choose to do
and are happy doing. You just need to get a job. Because shadi toh krni he pdti
hai beta, agr is samaj me rhena hai toh. I am not trying to show the gender
inequalities here. Rather just pointing towards the entire social politics.
All I am trying to say is that don't try to
compensate the certain things with money. Money could only help when you
yourself are mature to be in a relationship. And parents if you think that your
child is mature, let him/her manage it. But if no then, don't force it upon
them. As it makes no sense then. Things don't need to be done just because they
need to done. Doing them only when you are ready is a better way. Get yourself
the job you want to do. Just suggesting.
The second thing I mentioned above are the expenses of the coaching centers.
